I have in my time owned some old and unreliable cars. In our first year of marriage we owned a 1954 VW Kombi that was in less than pristine condition. However, in 1971 at the height of the hippy movement, it was de rigueur.
I remember filling it with friends and heading off to Mt Hutt ski field. Not that we skied mind you, we were too cool for that, but just to hang out and fool around in the snow. Getting up the mountain was a huge struggle for the VW, and as I recall we had to get people out of the van to help push it up the last steep access path and into the ski field car park.
Moving downhill on the return journey was easy, the problem was reversed, how to prevent it from gaining too much speed on the way down the mountain when it was overloaded and under braked, and preventing a great day out from turning into a disaster.
It’s been a long slog up hill for the sexual revolution, with everyone finally getting out to push gay marriage into the car park of public respectability. We have played in the snow for a while, and are now on the way back down the hill. I’m surprised how quickly we are gaining speed.
In today's papers, two articles came to my attention. The first in relation to sex education in schools, which contained the extraordinary assertion that the program was going to focus on “examining the bias that opposite sex relationships are normal.”
You might want to pause for a moment and reflect on the profound implications of that statement made by a representative of our Ministry of Education.
As we gather speed downhill, we can no longer assume that a state sex education program will be predicated on the historical idea that opposite sex relationships are normal. That is now a ‘bias’ that needs to be redressed in the minds of the next generation.
Parents, fasten your seat belts please.
However, that’s only the beginning. Our educationalist elite sincerely believes that gender is just a social construct, and has little or nothing to do with your biology that is defined at conception. In other words, we are environmentally determined. Consequently, having separate and distinct school uniforms, one kind for boys and another for girls, simply reinforces negative gender stereotypes.
This cannot be allowed to continue. The Ministry of Education is now urging schools to address this negative gender bias issue the next time their school uniforms are redesigned.
Oh, I almost forgot, there is a recommendation to ‘review toilet spaces’ as well. Having ‘male’ and ‘female’ or ‘boys’ and ‘girls’ on the doors really does make the ‘transgendered’ and ‘gender flexible’ students feel confused about where to pee.
At one level, it is very difficult to take this seriously, but be assured, these agents of social change are deadly serious, and your children and grand children are their targets.
Then Stuff launches what can be best described as an unashamed promotion for web and mobile phone apps that facilitate one night stands and random hook ups, implicit in the text is the notion that monogamy is now ‘old school’.
In the article Jessie tells us, “maybe she wasn't quite like the ladies she saw at church, that maybe the sexual strictures of life in D.C.'s monied suburbs weren't for her.”
‘Her first marriage, in her early 20s, had ended after an affair. (Hers.) Her second marriage, started shortly thereafter, was "happy — very happy," but as her boys grew up and moved out and moved on, she was left faintly bored. She thought about cheating on her husband of 20 years. She considered bars, parties, a review of the lapses in her mid-20s.
Instead, she sat her husband down and told him something that more and more progressive couples are beginning to realise. They loved each other and wanted to stay together — but in the age of Tinder and Ashley Madison and OkCupid, they also both wanted to have other options. Options they knew were just a click away.’
How very adult, progressive, sophisticated and de jure.
Don’t you like that she ‘sat her husband down’ and explained the facts to him in words of one syllable so he could understand. I’m sure he would subsequently enjoy having her accompany him to his staff Christmas parties, delighted that she has taken a shine to the new accounts clerk that he recently employed. That would make for interesting dynamics at work. Or perhaps he has been cheating on her with the same guy, and now that it’s out in the open, the three of them can just ‘kiss and make out’?
Once you open this door, there is no limit to the sexual expressions available to consenting adults.
Stuff then goes on to quote the founder of ‘Open Minded’ who says:
"If you look at marriage, it developed as a survival strategy and a means of raising kids," Wade said. "But relationships are no longer a necessary component of life. People have careers and other interests — they can survive without them."
The brakes on the Kombi are truly smoking!
All we need to be fully satisfied is to have relationship free uncomplicated sex with multiple partners. Who knew?
In a recent post I referenced a book, ‘Family and Civilization’ by Charle C. Zimmerman, that refers to three family types, Trustee, Domestic and Atomized.
The Atomized family type was the one that preceded the collapse of ancient Greece, and also ancient Rome. They were characterized by divorce, promiscuity, and homosexuality. These outcomes are the fruit of lives focused on individual choice, and sensuality rather than the collective sacrifices necessary by both husband and wife to produce, nurture and raise the next generation.
As wade said, ‘relationships are no longer necessary, we can survive without them’. Perhaps, but logic dictates this can only be true for one generation.
What happens to our culture, our civilization or even our economy if we continue to devalue the natural family and the monogamous relationships designed to protect and sustain it? Absent children, who are going to be the consumers and the rest home ‘care givers’ for the present generation when they grow old?
Perhaps it will be the immigrants that don’t share our values?
The Kombi will get to the bottom of the hill that much is certain; the only question surrounds the condition of the occupants when it arrives. With the present rate of change, we won’t have to wait very long to find out.